By now, your child may be starting to listen and sometimes even respond to your instructions. Especially if you combine your instructions with small hand and body movements, you can make it easier for him to respond or follow you by understanding you. We recommend that you help your child by speaking in short and clear words while talking to him. It's also great to make eye contact while speaking, and even to strengthen your communication by getting down to his level if possible (i.e. by crouching down, bringing your face closer to him when he lies down, and looking into his eyes).
Being a Role Model is the Best Thing You Can Do for Ethical Teachings...
Please remember that as of the 13th month, you are a role model in communication, as in many areas of life, from the words used in your communication with your child to the way of speaking. Take care to use courtesy words such as "thank you" and "please" in your conversations; pause to give him a word when speaking, use politely pleading rather than imperative sentences. After a while you will find that most of them have been copied and internalized by your child. Values such as kindness, sharing, empathy, honesty are things you can teach your children only through example.
Positive Parenting
"Positive parenting" is a rising trend in the world these days. It focuses on parents building strong and healthy relationships with their children from an early age and developing constructive solutions to their problems together. As a parent, there is so much you can do for your children. We have said that the most important of these is to create an environment full of love and trust. As another important issue, we talked about a ready-made environment that will support their development, and the selection of games and toys that will provide them with the necessary warnings. Another important issue is to be the right role models for them. You will see that during your parenting journey, your children will follow you with the things you do rather than the words you say. They will copy you in many ways, they will take an example. Therefore, during your relationship with them, please keep in mind that in your behavior towards your child or your behavior towards others in front of him, one day this behavior may be done against you by your child. We know that you want the best things in life for them. You can take care of having those features first of all how you want your dream child or the person you will raise.
Avoid Punishment and Reward
Dr. Maria Montessori expressed important views on this subject; He did not include punishment and reward in his education philosophy. She sees the pleasure as the greatest reward when she can do something the child wants to do with effort. There are different views on reward and punishment issues. However, even the majority of those who defend these concepts emphasize the importance of positive feedback being more than negative feedback and punishments. It is important to be aware of and pay attention to these issues today. As a matter of fact, you may have to go through a much more challenging process in order to be conscious, to take the developmental processes of children and to take the necessary precautions in order to produce solutions in the future.
If you would like to have more detailed information about encouraging our children, especially why we should not use the award, Dr. We can recommend Özgür Bolat's book "Do not punish me with a reward". In his book, Dr. Bolat explains the invisible hidden damages of the award and proposes practical solutions and applications.
Have a nice day away from labels and punishments...