Child The period when children need to be appreciated for their individuality


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First of all, we look at what awaits us after the age of 1.5, especially from the perspective of social development; Afterwards, we will continue to share tips with you by mentioning what you can pay attention to when traveling with your baby. Generally, between the 15th and 17th months, your children will begin to oppose their parents' suggestions and/or directives, as they become aware of their own strengths in mutual relations and based on the characteristics of the developmental stage they go through. This is completely normal, but coupled with the fact that kids aren't really rational yet, this time will take some effort. They begin to act almost as if in love with the word “no” or the idea of objecting. When you ask something, the answer may be no, even if they sometimes want to. The period between 13 and 22 months is a very remarkable period in terms of the social development of the child. Ideally, our children begin this period with an innocence that is ready to adapt to many circumstances. Between the ages of 15 and 17 months, there is usually a big change with the emergence of a negative attitude, which is a universal period in most normal children. This negativity is based on the fact that children of this age almost beg for recognition of their individuality with their inner strength, and for some reason that we do not fully understand, this primitive awareness triggers this special period in which the child attempts to experiment with this power. The most obvious form of this is sometimes resistance by using the word "no" repeatedly throughout the day. At other times, they show other kinds of resistance.

The most usual feature of this stage is the testing of your (that is, authority) strength. The most important thing to do is to know that this period is temporary and not to take these negativities personally. At this age, connections are established between the brain cells of the child at a great speed, that is, extraordinary activities are taking place in their brains. The prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for planning and regulating emotions and behaviors in the brain, is not yet developed. During this period, it is important that you do not go over your child in unnecessary matters, but that he or she should definitely recognize some limits. In this period when he is used to testing you, it is important that you convey to him correctly what is possible and permissible, and what is not allowed; is to show it to him with a steady attitude in your words and actions. Don't worry, ideally, after a while, your child will have resolved these issues and will return to being ready to negotiate. In those times, he was generally more mature and could communicate better using words; basically more reasonable and ready to negotiate. He is also much more confident in situations outside the home. This is the ideal situation, but of course not always that way, especially with the first child. For a variety of reasons, firstborns carry this fighting spirit for at least another six months, usually until their third year of life. Especially if language development is taking place, this struggle is much more likely to prolong. Sometimes this struggle is also described as the “two-year-old syndrome or crisis”. In fact, it is not a crisis, but rather an effort to prove himself, testing his limits and reacting if he cannot communicate or thinks he is not understood. This period is essentially a boundary expansion age. In general, the main reason for the prolongation of this period is the excessive tolerance of the parents. Clarity, a firm stance along with setting boundaries and being compassionate is the method that gives the most desired and correct results. If you want to learn more about these issues, there are two books we can recommend to you: "Don't Put Limits on Your Child" by Robert D. MacKenzie and "What We Did to Freud and This Happened to Our Children" by Psychoanalyst CatherinMathelin. We read with pleasure; we hope you enjoy it too. Traveling with my child… While we have summarized the expectations regarding social development, let's talk a little bit about traveling with your child. Travel is one of the activities that most closely affects social development. When your child is on the verge of 1.5 years old, he probably doesn't fit in and wants to move constantly. It is not an easy task to travel with him in these times, to make him sit happily in the car seat or on the plane without whining or crying. The most important detail, especially at this age, is the preparations you need to make in advance. Careful strategic planning may be required for a smooth journey when you say things to have in your bag, backups, distraction tactics.

If you pre-arrange the toys and activities that can distract your child, the trouble of wearing a belt, the need to move, etc. You can prevent problems in advance. For example, a colorful book that he can turn the pages of, one or two water-based pens, one that he likes very much, and one that will attract his attention because it is new, can be counted among the items we recommend to keep with you to keep busy. We also strongly recommend that you don't fasten your seat belt until you're on the road, and keep your enthusiasm on it by providing an environment where it can move a bit. You should pay attention to different details from what you need to carry in your bag to what kind of seats you should choose on the plane, from the songs you can take with you in the car to emergency measures. Your child is your work of art Imitation is the only way children learn. It observes all your movements, attitudes and behaviors in daily life in detail and repeats you exactly. That's why you can sometimes see your or your spouse's movements, facial expressions and attitudes in your children. Your child learns all behaviors such as thanking, begging, apologizing from you. For this reason, when you are with your child not only inside the house, but also outside the home, he takes you as an example every hour of the day. The way to teach your children good behavior is not to exhort them, but to set an example.